My grandfather, a man of few words and fewer wants, was about to receive shoes for Christmas. According to his 5 year old daughter (later on my mother), they were the ugliest shoes in the world: they had square toes. Square toes! She tried to talk her mother out of buying them, but to no avail, and there they were, wrapped up, stored in the back of the closet, just waiting to be placed under the tree. As with most depression era Christmases, he was getting just the one wrapped present, and it contained a pair of horrible, square toed shoes.
After stewing about the shoes for several days, she waited until her mother went out one evening, and taking her father by the hand, she led him to the closet. She pointed out the box, placed on the shelf above her head, and explained the problem. Listening patiently, he removed the box, took off the wrapping paper, and solemnly agreed that the shoes really were ugly. The two, father and daughter, made a plan: they would take the box of shoes back to the store, exchange them for a different pair (with pointier toes), re-wrap the box, slip it back onto the shelf in the closet, and when he opened them on Christmas morning, all would be well.
And so it went as planned. Jodie and her dad made the switch, planted the shoes, and waited for Christmas. When the morning finally arrived, he unwrapped his present and was absolutely delighted with the fine pair of shoes he received! A good looking pair of black, pointy toed shoes. What a gift! His enthusiasm and his daughter’s deep satisfaction almost made up for my grandmother’s confusion – until she realized what had happened. She had a choice: be mad for the rest of the day or accept that, in spite of all her good intentions and efficient planning, something unexpected had occurred. She chose the latter, and the gift of the transformed shoes went down in family history.
Gifts don’t always turn out the way we plan them, do they? Sometimes we hold them too tightly, expecting perfection and feeling that lingering disappointment that comes because nothing is ever completely perfect. Sometimes we stress that we haven’t given enough, or that we’ve given more than we can afford. Gift giving can be a form of obligation or competition, even, and stir up resentment. It can be complicated, indeed.
As Christians, our saving grace (quite literally) is the reminder that every gift we give, great and small, is a reflection of the first gift: God’s love. When God’s love became incarnate in a human being, the small and powerless baby didn’t look all that impressive, I’m sure. We hear that angels and shepherds and even Kings came to the stable, and who knows what xpectations they had to shake loose before they could receive the gift that was being offered.
This year, may every gift you give and every gift you receive lift you out of your expectations. May each interaction be an opportunity to be surprised by the goodness and love that are in your life. It doesn’t always look the way we anticipate, but God’s love is always there. Search for it, listen for it, and let yourself be touched by the unexpected blessings all around you.
Thanks be to God!
Kim